Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
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Well, here it goes...this is really hard for me to do. My reveal. During a session tonight with a client, we had a break through. This particular client was having a tough time and dealing with an injury. The client was really frustrated and felt like giving up. I let her in on little about my own hardships while striving for a goal.
This is going to sound crazy, but this has been the worst year of my life and yet I'm happy. You see we can't always control what happens in our lives, BUT we can control how we choose to react to it. Instead, as my client said tonight "be proactive".
You see I was preparing myself for a 90 day challenge to compete in a national level figure competition, on August 28. The month of August was the toughest. Among many things that has happened to me and my family this year, it definitely tested me. My younger brother was at the wrong place, at the wrong time, and with the wrong person. Imagine a year of visiting my brother through a glass window and letters every week to keep his spirits up. Then I sat in a court room and heard the worst thing ever. I heard the verdict of life without parole, and my heart broke. All I can say about it now is we are going to pursue an appeal. Then after that, my other younger brother was sent to Afghanistan for a year on duty. He is leaving behind his new son of 10 months and fiance. My mother feels like she said goodbye to 2 sons and is all alone back home. I am the oldest of 5, and try to keep it together for everyone.
The point is, I felt like giving up too. I felt like my goal was too selfish and superficial. I wanted to binge eat and drink til I felt numb. Pause. I thought about it, and knew it wouldn't fix anything. I knew it wouldn't help anyone and it damn sure wouldn't make me feel any better about myself. Would my brothers be proud of that? Would I? No, I chose to keep on my goal and do the best I could despite everything. I needed to do that competition for me. I competed that day in August and placed 9th out of 12 in my division. I had placed top 15 last year and wanted to be in the top 10 this year. I did it, but would have loved to still be better.
So, what your excuse? I don't have one. I just had some hardships that I needed to work through and STILL kept getting back up. I got back up, and YOU can too. Evaluate what brings you down, frustrates you, and makes you feel like you can't. Then attack it. I'm not going to let LIFE keep me down, and you shouldn't either. I like quotes and I like speeches, so I'll leave you with another one of my favorites.
"The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that! " - Rocky Balboa
NEVER GIVE UP
Coach Stephanie
You see I was preparing myself for a 90 day challenge to compete in a national level figure competition, on August 28. The month of August was the toughest. Among many things that has happened to me and my family this year, it definitely tested me. My younger brother was at the wrong place, at the wrong time, and with the wrong person. Imagine a year of visiting my brother through a glass window and letters every week to keep his spirits up. Then I sat in a court room and heard the worst thing ever. I heard the verdict of life without parole, and my heart broke. All I can say about it now is we are going to pursue an appeal. Then after that, my other younger brother was sent to Afghanistan for a year on duty. He is leaving behind his new son of 10 months and fiance. My mother feels like she said goodbye to 2 sons and is all alone back home. I am the oldest of 5, and try to keep it together for everyone.
The point is, I felt like giving up too. I felt like my goal was too selfish and superficial. I wanted to binge eat and drink til I felt numb. Pause. I thought about it, and knew it wouldn't fix anything. I knew it wouldn't help anyone and it damn sure wouldn't make me feel any better about myself. Would my brothers be proud of that? Would I? No, I chose to keep on my goal and do the best I could despite everything. I needed to do that competition for me. I competed that day in August and placed 9th out of 12 in my division. I had placed top 15 last year and wanted to be in the top 10 this year. I did it, but would have loved to still be better.
So, what your excuse? I don't have one. I just had some hardships that I needed to work through and STILL kept getting back up. I got back up, and YOU can too. Evaluate what brings you down, frustrates you, and makes you feel like you can't. Then attack it. I'm not going to let LIFE keep me down, and you shouldn't either. I like quotes and I like speeches, so I'll leave you with another one of my favorites.
"The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that! " - Rocky Balboa
NEVER GIVE UP
Coach Stephanie
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ReplyDeleteu r really sumthing else gurl :)......nice to know there is others with the same positive mindset you have........thats sumthing that can never be taken away
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